Dream Diary

My dear husband told me about a dream he had about the two of us.

He went into great detail, including the scent of my skin, his kisses down my spine, the way my hands looked on his body, the sexy outfit I wore, how turned on he was...it was so flattering to hear it. I mean, for heaven's sake, a sexy dream about his own wife. Of course I wanted to make his dream come true for him.

I was spurned on to start a diary the two of us can keep, one filled with dreams and fantasies and memories. I may start with a questionaire we can each fill in separately and then compare notes.

Exercise:

Start your own diary, by yourself if you don't have a current lover. Write out your fantasies: those you wish to fulfill, and those you'd never want to do in real life. Don't share your thoughts if you think your lover might be upset you've been pretending he's George Clooney.

If you have a sexy dream, don't get out of bed right away, don't even move. Keep your eyes closed, and revisit the vision. Don't judge. Once you think you've mulled over every feature, then reach for your pen and notebook by the bed. Write down every detail.